Nov 12, 2015

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HOW TO STOP FEELING BURDENED BY A COMPLEX (Hãy quẳng đi gánh nặng tâm lý mặc cảm)

Reason of the topic: On the occasion of an event that related to the harmfulness of complex attitude while cultivating one’s mind, I would like to contribute my idea to develop the Prajna wisdom which can be interpreted as “is freed from delusive hindrance, rid of the fears bred by it”. I would like to thank hoptrung and Mat Tam Bi who gave me a reason to have this writing..


Recently, Mat X who is from Hanoi has paid a trip to Song Nguyen Tantra House in order to officially take refuge in the Buddha, in the dharma and in the sangha, as well as to receive the Tantric Dharma and baptism. By this occasion, I heard stories of a married couple who frequently invite the Buddhist monks to their home to recite prayers in order to wish for peace for their alive and dead relatives. Sometimes, they even take part in many charities more enthusiastic than anyone else. But it is so strange that after years of doing those kinds of activities, they have never been taken refuge. It is turn out that they have been devoured by a guilty complex that their money might be earned illegally which can be violated the 2nd and 4th commandment along 5 distinguished Buddhist commandments. For that reason, they restrained themselves firmly not to take refuge because they believe that their faults would be more serious if they already got to know that their action were so wrong.

There is another person who is currently doing research about Buddhism in Hanoi consider himself as a disciple of mine by the named Mat Tam Bi. He has been also being in the mood of guilty complex as above mentioned case. In latest event of reciting Great Vehicle’s commandments rite which was hold on 1st day of the month in Song Nguyen Tantra House branched in Sai Gon, there was another similar case happened with N.V.T.

It is not that they do not have any clues on what they should do. If they were afraid of violating the commandments, they should take refuse all the more because according to Mahayana Buddhist, it is said that:”The one who awarded to themselves the commandments to violate is Buddhist monk, on the contrary the one who is violating without any care about commandment is the exterior abbot”. A Buddhist who have been taken refuge will receive the unlimited merit that cannot be counted by numbers but “All the merits that collected by upholding the precepts in the Saha world within one day is equivalent to those merits collected through out 100 years in the Buddha’s world”. For that reason, being violated one of the precepts after embracing Buddhism still remains beneficial imcomparably. It is not by chance Most Venerable Hsuan Hua stated that:”A Buddhist monk who broke the morals shall receive more merits than other exterior abbots”. Suppose that a Buddhist receiving 5 precepts but violating 1 or 2, even 3 precepts then they still receive the merits from upholding the other 2 remaining precepts. Furthermore, they have countless skillful means to keep remaining their merits. Because maintaining & upholding the precepts is just one of six Paramitas (Charity, Moral conduct, Patience, Devotion, Contemplation, Prajna wisdom) or one of three supreme methods so that upholding the precepts is just related to Upeksa (Self-sacrifice), while there are still Bodhicitta and Emptiness. Then why do we have to restrain ourselves from receiving the Buddhist precepts?

 Furthermore, among 10 activities related to Dharma as (1) making offerings (2) penitence (3) Charity (4) Praying (5) Listening Dharm lectures (6) explaining Dharma (including sharing thoughts by giving comments) (7) copying texts (8) reciting (9) Mantra (10) Contemplating and meditating, is it logical that the Buddhist should keep griping 5 fundamental prohibitions in their mind which are against murder, theft, lust, lying and drunkenness? In fact, the mundane people are also able to keep 5 precepts as above mentioned but those efforts just bring common blessing (rich, noble, peaceful, glorious life and natural dead) but not merits which directly helps to accumulate reasons to be reborn into the Buddha’s land. Plus, we had better not to pay much concern on “official precepts” (following strictly what the Buddha has taught), there are still other ways such as following good deeds and especially helping people to lead a Buddhist life. Then the merits shall be created countlessly accordingly and become a Mahayana Buddhism’s skillful mean.

In conclusion, the Buddhist should not remain the guilty feeling for not following the Buddhist precepts. On the contrary, they should start to build up their pride in being brave to uphold the precepts and shall definitely have a chance to perform penitence in case of violation in order to become the 2nd noble person as the Buddha’s teaching. There came a question that what would happen if a person keep violating one commandment during a long time such as the 3rd one among 5 commandments? This is a meaningless question because after taking refuge the Buddhist shall be supported and blessed by the Buddha so that kind of situation would never come true for sure! Conversely, the person who have been taken refuge shall be more beneficial because they still own to themselves remaining commandments to resist, the merits from the two other commandments shall make up automatically. It can be referred to the case of a multi-field business cooperation, each business will support the others in case there are some businesses have been failed.


The guilty feeling has become the barrier to many Buddhists during their cultivation period, especially for those who has just started to research Dharma without any good-knowing advisor (a spiritual true friend)’s guidance. Complex is a kind of spiritual poison which absorded gradually in order to make us let things run their course out wearily and leave all the powers to their destiny’s discretion. The Buddhist, especially the Tantric Buddhist (Vajrayana) should avoid this kind of spiritual dead gulf so the 8th one among 14 main Tantric commandments is “Feeling guilty of your own self”. There is another situation that makes the Buddhist feel guilty which directly cause arrogance and pride poison, exactly so-called superior to superior arrogance which thinking that one is only slightly inferior to those who far surpass one and determined to give that thought.

In some Bodhi-mandala, there are cases whereby people have low academic standard, they haven’t even finished 9th class and are now doing mediocre work for an earn-living (manual labour, cuisine labour, etc) but they started their life as a Buddhist earlier than other people and accordingly are called “Big Dharma Brother”. Because of their own complex, they attempted to criticize other co-religionists’ practice who own high academic standard in order to satisfy their own ego. Regarding the “Buddhist scriptures”, although they are rather slow while making a logical reason because of lacking of Buddhist knowledge and reserved to explain about Buddhism and Samyaksamkalpa (right thinking). They are not capable of writing or lecturing so they concentrated on chanting and reading aloud then unintentionally are at fault by “chanting Buddhist scriptures in order to be outstanding”. They even consider making offerings as their outstanding strength. As they give themselves a complex about their learning standard, their appearance, or the lack of their six roots of sensation, etc, they would not have missed chances to make threat against their newly Dharma brothers who have just started to follow the Buddhism by lecturing them that :”You will violate this commandment if you handle your issues that way..”. While they do not have any clue about the exact meaning of the Buddhist commandments. Of course, the victim subsequently would definitely feel anxious and scared accordingly to find out that to practice the Buddha’s truth is over their extent, whatever she/he does, speak or eat will all violate a particular kind of commandment so it’s better for her/him to quit. At that time, they (the people with their complex’s motivation) would be so “happy” whispering to themselves:”Now that you can see, high education cannot guarantee you to perform the Buddha’s truth”. On the outside, they pretended to comfort the victim. Deep inside, they rejoice inwardly that even though they are low-educated, they haven’t made any commandment violation at all. Actually, they have violated one of most serious commandment which is “doubled-sided” (two-edged talk belongs to Eight Prohibitory Commandments, or “destroy other’s faith”, “find the Dharma brothers’ faults because of the anger” (the general Tantric Commandments). In case they had already been received the “Bodhi-mind precept”, they would have violated one of 18 main precepts as :”Talking big about own achievement and criticize others in order to dignify the own self”.

There are some Tantric Buddhists or people who are now doing a research on Tantric Buddhism said that 16 daily activities method is a way to approach the full-enlightenment (read more at “What is Tantra yoga?”) and conclude that this method is easy but hard at the same time on her own initiative. The reason is as following:”If we give a careful thought about 16 daily activities method, this is an easy but hard method at the same time. Why is it? It is easy because anyone can practice these kinds of activities anytime, anywhere at any level of their ages or workload. It is not being restricted as other methods. On the contrary, it is hard because it is obliged to be received from a Tantra Guru in order to have an absolute effect after the practice. Furthermore, one should be industrious and take a good care on every moves skillfully at any time. Whatever they walk, stand, eat, drink or lie down should observe the Buddhist precepts in order to create merits..” (Extracted from hoptrung’s comment)

On this occasion, I would like to clarify what is the exact meaning of “industrious and take a good care on every moves skillfully”? Why is being transmitted abroad the Buddha truth from a Guru is that difficult? Which proofs did they base to firmly state the conclusion? They would not definitely be able to quote on the root proofs. So by this way they raise difficulties and give others a complex who are now interested in Tantra Buddhism and desire to follow then. I would like to list out here reasons to prove that following Tantra Buddhism is much easier:

1/ His Holiness The Dalai Lama XIV once taught that, if you choose to become a Buddhist, you should choose the Tantra (Mantrayana), and especially the Unexcelled Yoga Tantra (Highest Yoga Tantra) at the best if possible. However, in case one Buddhist cannot follow the Unexcelled Yoga Tantra, he will teach them to follow Tantra Yoga. If not possible then, he will teach them Practice Tantra Yoga. If not possible again you will be taught Moving Tantra Yoga in turn. At final choice, he will lecture Mahayana Buddhist scriptures in which they aren’t named.

His Holiness The Dalai Lama XIV and Khetsen Zangpo Rinpoche

2/ Khetsen Zangpo Rinpoche:” Secret Mantra is like a house in the middle of a broad field which can be entered from any direction: east, south, west or north. A student is not forced to a particular entrance, for there is a path to accommodate any trainee. In the lower vehicles one must follow a rather narrow path, but in the Mahayana Mantra Vehicle there are many extradinary means of quickly amassing the collections of merit and wisdom”. “Quick and easy are features of Mahayana Mantra Vehicle.” (One Mantra for one Lifetime, page 115).

3/ Kusum Lingpa Rinpoche:”Mahayana Mantra Vehicle is less arduous, more direct and practical than Sutra Vehicle”

Kusum Lingpa Rinpoche

4/ Rinchen Zangpo Rinpoche:”Until advanced age, I have to learn and practice Sravaka meditation (sound hearer). After meeting Atisha, my soul has been liberated totally in a real meditation.”

Rinchen Zangpo Rinpoche


Hoptrung said that following Tantric Buddhism is hard because it is compulsory to have a Guru to transmit abroad the Buddha’s truth which can be understood as a mean to prove her own situation. In the future if she becomes a Song Nguyen Tantra House’s member, she will use her complex which rooted in her past as a reason to give other people who she will meet and spread Buddhist abroad a complex feeling in succession accordingly in order to show off that she had been experienced a hard time to be received the Dharma from Guru. This is psychological self-regard which will be a reason for the arrogance and this is the greatest difficulty for those who will be received the Bodhi-mind precepts later then because they do not understand the simple core of Mahayana Vehicle and lay the blame at their Guru. After that, the Guru doctrine would be possible to appear, many people will take the this chance to seek profit like a similar case of a Northern’s Bodhi-mandala named Y.

By the way, I need to let you all understand that each Buddhist has his own different opportunity. There are people who are easy to have a Tantra name, on the contrary rather slow to have an official one from 1 to 6 months. Among the people who have had a Tantra name, not all of them will be accepted to take refuge then. Among the people who have had taken refuge, not all of them will be consecrated in an official ceremony. Among the people who have consecrated, not all of them will be received the Mahayana’s truth. Not all of them subsequently to be received the Bodhi-mind precept and a Boddhi-mind Tantrist shall not guarantee a person to become a leader Dharma Brother. Everything will be accomplished naturally up to each other’s fundamental possibility. Song Nguyen Tantra House will gradually close from now to 2017, this will become the deadline for us to select appropriate Tantrists, of course not based on the criterion of quantity, wealth, fame.

Not only some particular Buddhists but Bhiksu and Bhiksuni also make other people to feel guilty while they desire to find the true happiness in following the Buddha’s truth. In case people happen to meet a Buddhist monk, they will immediately hear the chorus: “If one person desire to practice the Buddha’s truth, they must abstain from meat, avoid drinking alcohol and frequently recite sutras in a Buddhist temple, etc”. Getting to know about it, everyone cannot help feeling anxious, especially to those who live a layman life with the stream of worrying issues about family, children and many other social relationships. For those who are monks living in a Buddhist temple, this precept is easy to follow and maintain. However, if they come to apply this kind of precept to the layman will easily make them feel “dizzy” because of the hardship. Then for what reason they intend to do that? They show off particular precepts which the layman would never be able to fulfill. By that way, the layman have no choice but bow them in admiration and make offerings to them finally. All those actions are for the purpose of increasing their own fine self. Day after day, the Buddhist will be pressured under the complex that has been built gradually and forget about “the fourfold assembly of a monastery”. They just concentrate on making offerings, doing results and working as labour in the temple and keep thinking that the Dharma’s lectures are just reserved for the Buddhist monks only.

 A person will be pressured as long as they start off their own way as a Buddhist and come to the Buddhist temple for the first time by forced to read aloud the Great Compassion Mantra which is especially long, as well as many other syntaxes or sutras which were interpreted merely in Han Chinese. It must be doubtful about the possibility that the Buddhist monks can comprehend those kind of texts. Toward the Prabhu (the Primitive Vehicle, the Buddhist is forced to recite in Pali, in some Northern temples or Quan Am Monastery in Ho Chi Minh which follow Mahayana Vehicle, they are forced to recite in Tibetanese. The language barrier though the phonetic will definitely create a complex for the Buddhist because they not only do not have any clue on what they are reading but also find it hard to read or recite just like learning a foreign language. It will be easier for the high-educated people to feel a complex and hurt the self-respect after realizing the difficulty. Gradually, there remains only the old people coming to the temple. For the young people, they would choose a short-course at the most which can be described as “not to go into details”!


After all, I would like to leave words for those who are now considering Tantra Buddhism in particular or any Buddhism in general that you should not feel a complex about yourself for not taking refuge in the Buddha, in the Dharma and in the Sangha. For those who are trying to contribute themselves to learn and practice Dharma in Song Nguyen Tantra House should not make any arguments by your own reasons, or in order to spread your complex to others as well. Tantra Buddhist is purely simple and essence, you should not make it become a barrier and accordingly betray the Supreme’s expectation. The Bhiksu and Bhiksuni who are the official messengers of the Buddha should not give people who desire to find a spiritual base to lean on a complex, even in case they do not feel the need to spread their Bodhi-mind. In my humble point of view, the greatest thing we have should do is trying to help others but not intentionally letting them paying as much respect as possible for us. Because the eight kinds of wind is basically the enemy of anyone who is a Buddhist.

May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature!
Om Mani Padme Hum!

Phuoc Thanh Village, 26th March 2015

Thinley Nguyen Thanh.

Translated by Mat Tu.

Original Vietnamese post: HÃY QUẲNG ĐI GÁNH NẶNG TÂM LÝ MẶC CẢM

  1. Mat Dieu Hang says:
    Dear Mat Tu,
    Your translation is deeply impressed on me. It helps me to contemplate on our guru’s discourse “HOW TO STOP FEELING BURDENED BY A COMPLEX”.
    Those who have inferiority complex of inability to keep the Five Precepts make themselves have an obstruction in taking refuge in the Buddha, in the dharma and in the sangha and miss a precious opportunity to get a release from sufferings and attaint the temporary happiness in this life and ultimate bliss in next life.
    Keeping the Five Precepts is only one of many methods for Buddhists to cultivate their action of body, speech and mind. There are many types of spiritual activites in Buddhism which help practitioners to collect merit and wisdom such as: six Paramitas (Charity, Moral conduct, Patience, Devotion, Contemplation, Prajna wisdom) and 10 activities related to Dharma as (1) making offerings (2) penitence (3) Charity (4) Praying (5) Listening Dharm lectures (6) explaining Dharma (including sharing thoughts by giving comments) (7) copying texts (8) reciting (9) Mantra (10) Contemplating and meditating. If Buddhists violate one or two of the Five Precepts, they still can get merit and wisdom through other spiritual activities.
    The most important thing is that only by taking refuge in the Three Jewels, can Buddhists shall be supported and blessed by the Buddha so that they can accumulate merit rapidly while other worldly people or externalists who have spent all their life or many lives on “biting the bullet” to get it. Moreover, Buddhists will receive the pure waves which make them have the happy life during their practicing right Dharma. Be brave to take refuge in the Three Jewels to get inconceivable benefit of being a Buddhist!
    On the other hand, the inferiority complex also make Buddhists difficult in cultivating their action of body, speech and mind. In Tantric, there is a skillful means of reciting mantra to help practitioners transform negative complex into possitive complex. Mantra recitation which reminds practitioners of divine thoughts is extremely helpful. The mantra as Mani mantra “Om Mani Padme Hum” creates positive and peaceful thoughts or vibrations, and the more practitioners mentally repeat the mantra, the more it becomes a good habit and automatically comes to mind and brings them peace. This is a way to replace unwholesome negative thoughts with wholesome thoughts.
    Besides, practitioners should train their mind to think of their fortunate to become a human and to be a Buddhist. They will be future fully enlightened Arahants and have full wisdom, awareness and purity of mind developing in them now, they just have to nourish it and encourage it to emerge. And they try to think about the enlightenment, just by thinking of the Guru, the Buddha for a moment and practicing mindfulness for a moment, is another big step toward enlightenment like Dhammapada verse 122 saying: “One should not think lightly of doing good, imagining ‘A little will not affect me’; just as a water-jar is filled up by falling drops of rain, so also, the wise one is filled up with merit, by accumulating it little by little.”
    Thank you so much for your translation.
    May all your wishes come true in the orbit of right Dharma.
    May our Guru and Dakini live a long life for the sake of all sentient beings.
    May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature.
    Om Mani Padme Hum.
  2. Duy Trí says:
    I admire your insight and sympathy to us disciples.
    Being expose to Buddhism from very young age, I have never understood my religion. People around me who considered themselves Buddhists did not teach a fraction of what the Buddhas did. Many are exactly depicted in the lecture, doing lots of charities, inviting Buddhist Monks to recite prayers, avoid meat on certain days…Some did take refuge in the Buddha yet remain doubtful, shameful or stress themselves to keep griping 5 fundamental prohibitions.

    Today, I learnt that all of those contradictions come from our complexity and that feeling goes against the 8th one among the 14th main Tantric commandments.

    I learnt that taking refuge in the Buddha is enormously beneficial in many ways.

    I learnt that Buddhists can do more than just complying the 5 fundamental prohibitions, any act of the six Paramitas (Charity, Moral conduct, Patience, Devotion, Contemplation, Prajna wisdom) or the three supreme methods (Self-sacrifice, Bodhicitta and Emptiness) is counted significantly.

    I learnt that it is pitiful, as a Buddhist, to yearn just for common blessing (rich, noble, peaceful, glorious life and natural dead). Common people could have all those without following the Dharma.

    I learnt that we should not distanced ourselves to the Dharma just because we are not monks or because it is hard. “Quick and easy are features of Mahayana Mantra Vehicle.”

    Thanks to our Guru, I have learnt a lot today.

    May all sentient beings have their chance to expose with the Dharma.

    Om Mani Padme Hum.

    • Mật Hạnh Giác says:
      Paying homage to the noble Guru,
      I, Mat Hanh Giac, am glad to hear that you received some meaningful lessons from our Guru’s Teachings. Just likes you before, I used to misunderstand the true purpose of Exposing to Dharma. What almost people nowadays told us about Dharma is just traditional views, not the Buddha’s words.
      We’re living in the Darhma Ending Age, which means “The Buddhists who practise Dharma accurately is as rare as the morning stars” (Guru Rinpoche). Luckily, I finally met the noble Guru, who’s has taught me about Right Undestanding, the Understanding of Buddha.
      “Right understanding (Samyagdrsti) means the knowledge related to the emancipation purpose. It holds the opposite meaning to heretical views (views of the externalist or non-Buddhist views) which are the reasons to be reborn into Samsara. Therefore, Right understanding is considered as the foundation of wisdom. It is not by chance that Right understanding is ranked as the first place of the Buddhism’s Eightfold Path (eight right ways).”
      Following the Right Understanding, under the Guru’s guide, the disclipes have gotten closer to true hapiness not only in this life but also forever after.
      Thanks Mat Tu for your impressed translation. Wish you, Duy Tri, and all Dharma Brother receive benefits in both daily life and the Enlightening way.
      May our Guru and Dakini live a long life for the sake of all sentient beings.
      May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature.
      Om Mani Padme Hum.
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  4. Mật Tuệ Phúc says:
    Kính bạch Thầy!
    Con xin Quy y Đạo Sư, Quy y Phật, Quy y Pháp, Quy y Tăng cho đến khi giác ngộ tối thượng.
    Con cầu xin Bổn Tôn thông qua sự vận chuyển của vị Thầy gia hộ cho chúng sanh, mọi người trong gia đình con được hanh thông thế sự.
    Hỡi Đại sư Liên Hoa Sanh xin hướng tâm con về Phật Pháp,
    Hỡi các Bậc Toàn giác đừng để con lạc vào tà đạo thấp kém,
    Hỡi vị Thầy từ bi cùng với các Ngài chẳng khác xin để tâm đến con!
    Om Mani Padme Hum!
  5. marta irene guagliana says:
    DEAR GURU : Our inferiority complexes are strongly rooted in the mind mental habits.Taking refuge and the Dharma ,,,the gem than grants all desires teach us how to get rid of them . Also thanks to our Guru that with patience love and compassion we guide towards a correct vision….That Our Guru has health and a long life …that all beings be free from suffering and its causes …OM MANI PADMA HUM
    • Mật Diệu Hằng says:
      Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con xin phép dịch comment của đạo hữu Marta Irene Guagliana sang tiếng Việt như sau ạ:


      Tâm lý mặc cảm tự ti của chúng con ăn sâu vào tiềm thức và trở thành thói quen. Khi chúng con nương tựa vào pháp, viên ngọc từ những lời giáo huấn giúp chúng con thoát khỏi mặc cảm tự ti. Nhờ sự hướng đạo với lòng bi mẫn và kiên nhẫn của Thầy mà chúng con có được chánh kiến.

      Con cầu nguyện cho sức khỏe và sự trường thọ của Thầy.

      Cầu nguyện đau khổ của tất cả chúng sanh được lắng dịu.


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