Nov 21, 2013

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Almost all of people have set quality standards for every thing, from small to big things and events in their lives. Supposing, a young boy definitely have experienced a time in his life putting head on the clouds with the imagination of his standard wife: she must own a black long hair, a single-eyelid and her skin is as white as snow. One day, his real girl with no “Photoshop” effects comes with the main color both in hair and skin is brown and she wears a pair of glasses that he cannot realize how many eyelids she really has. But strangely, this does not mean that his life is painted with brown together with her hair color, it is still in pink color. Why?

Have you ever experienced the feeling of love at first sight? I am implying the “Love” here with the extensive meaning with friendship and other relationships; it is the affection towards the one that you have never met before. You cannot hide a smile seeing him/her and have sympathy towards that person for no reason. Have you asked yourself, “Why do I feel so close to him/her”?

Sometimes there came some persons who have a supernatural power to make you feel so uncomfortable to be with them for no reasons. Just by seeing them or hearing their voice makes you to be in a fret easily. Why?

Those are all predestined affinities. In other words, anything happened and anyone we happened to meet in our lives is destined for us.

Based on different philosophies of various religions, you may have your own way to explain the predestined affinity.  In the view of a Buddhist, it is my belief that all conditioned things and events in the universe come into being as a result of the interaction of various causes and conditions. It applies similarly to a predestined meeting among persons in their lives. There are nothing happens for no reason, they do not have an independent, autonomous reality. An unintentional act in this life originates from an intentional act in our previous life, or further previous lives formerly. Getting a deep understanding of this fact gives me a definitely fresh and interesting view into my life’s predestined affinity, especially towards the true family feeling and the precious brotherhood I have found at Song Nguyen Tantra House.

In our Song Nguyen Tantra House, besides teaching us to learn and practice Dharma, our Guru encourages us to let our personal feelings in harmony with the immense feeling of the brothers and the brotherhood in our Tantra House is placed at the first position. We come to understand that by developing a united and close-knit family, together learning and practicing Dharma, overcoming the difficulties we may meet in our lives, we can progress further and better. That’s why I always feel like “more than home” when I am with my Guru and the brothers in Song Nguyen Tantra House.

But there is no rule without an exception: my Guru has a special disciple whose character is so different. She seems to avoid sharing her feelings to any of us. Dependent upon her appearance, she does not look like a girl at all. She has an impressive way of walking, both deliberately and powerfully as though she does not afraid of anything or anyone; inside her keen eyes I saw the strong personality which was consolidated by getting through many hardships. Although she has been practicing Dharma and being my Guru’s disciple more than 2 years earlier than me, I heard that she has never grew closer to anyone. I guess by myself she is kind of having a lot of inner feelings. One of my co-religionists named Mat Vien once told me that my Guru has saved her life for three times. If she had not been predestined to meet my Guru, she would have not been saved through her sickness, as well as her injuries through her fight with others; she even almost could have been blind from a serious disease. She used to be a rough one, act in rude way and talk in rude words. My Guru has once forced her to practice meditation with him, and then she has gradually changed her character. From a violent one, she has changed to be a quiet and tend-to-listening one. Thanks to our benevolent Guru, we have been polished our nature, to have a compassionate and good heart towards the masses.

Back to my strange co-religionist, I realize the way she treat others is so unfair compared to the way she treats Mat Vien, my co-religionist. She even spent all her time around Mat Vien whenever Mat Vien had a stay at Song Nguyen Tantra House.  I will never forget her coldness when we first met, she just looked at me with full of suspicions in her eyes. I even felt scared of looking straight to those eyes. Although from the bottom of my heart, seeing the way she express her affection towards Mat Vien, I think she owns a good heart inside.

The evening when I first came to Song Nguyen Tantra House, while sitting in Tam Thua room I heard a knock on the door, together with a soft voice calling me. I was so shocked to see that strange co-religionist in front of the door. Not even waiting for my invitation, she stepped over the threshold and came in so definitively. I am not kind of getting close to anyone that fast, but I also share the same feeling of affectionate towards her immediately. I asked her if there was any confusion for her visit, maybe she came here for finding Mat Vien who shares the same room with me. She answered by sitting by my side and sharing the peaceful and friendly atmosphere. Gradually, I have grown the habit of waiting for her to drop in every day. I think she was rooted from a respectable family and live an order and disciplined life because she always stopped by at the same time every day. Sometime I cannot help asking, why I did develop a good sentiment towards a strange person for the first time without any defense. I think she should ask the same question; maybe with her character, she would be more wondering than me.

Because of this predestined affinity, I strongly believe that we have been something important towards each other in our previous lives. Much more appreciated, in this life we are both meeting at Song Nguyen Tantra House and being disciples of our benevolent Guru, we are sharing the happiness of living a meaningful life which is heading to helping us and others to live happily forever and ever…

A verse of a famous Vietnamese poem which was composed by our great poet named Nguyen Du just happens to appear in my mind. I take the liberty to use it as an ending of this writing:

“Người đâu gặp gỡ làm chi

Trăm năm biết có duyên gì hay không?”

Temporarily translate: (Please excuse my translating errors, if any)

“It’s a great happiness to have met you

Hundred years ahead will be like this, too?”

P/s: The character who is my predestined affinity in this writing named Mật Hùm, my Guru’s beloved cat, one of his disciples.


Mật Từ.



  1. nguyenthanh says:

    I like my cat, and thank you very much because you wrote about her. Mat Hum is her name, a good student. I hope you and she haves a nice frienship.

  2. Ngoc says:
    Ông/ bà MAT TU không phải là người Việt Nam ?!Có ai làm ơn dịch dùm bài viết này không vậy ?
  3. Ngoc says:
    À mà thôi không làm phiền quý vị.Vì tôi không phải là thành viên của gia đình phật tử của quý vị.Nên không dám đòi hỏi.Con mèo rất đáng yêu.Tôi rất thích mèo.
    • nguyenthanh says:

      [email protected] thân mến!
      Tuy Ngoc cho rằng mình không phải thành viên gia đình Phật tử của Mật gia Song Nguyễn, nhưng chúng tôi luôn xem Ngọc là pháp hữu trân quý! Cảm ơn đã quá mục và phản hồi tích cực. Chúc cát tường, an tịnh!

  4. Ngoc says:
    Oh trời,tác giả khéo ví von quá. Thành thật cám ơn người phiên dịch.Con mèo này,dù thuộc cảnh giới súc sinh,nhưng nó có duyên lành được sống trong gia đình phật tử.Những gì diễn ra hàng ngày trước mặt nó sẽ gieo vào tâm thức nó ,đó sẽ là nhân thành phật quả…
    • Mật Từ says:
      Mật Từ rất cảm ơn và vô cùng hoan hỷ vì đạo hữu Ngọc đã quan tâm đọc bài viết và phản hồi tích cực. Chúc đạo hữu luôn an lạc!
  5. Ngoc says:
    Xin lỗi,tôi comment lộn bài. Tôi comment cho bài được dịch ra tiếng Việt có tiêu đề “Mối duyên tiền định “.Cảm ơn dịch giả.
  6. Matkinh says:
    First of all, I would like to express the joyfulness for the cute article and thanks Mat Hum who make the inspiration for Mat Tu to write the FREDESTINED AFFINITY . The first time when I read the article without comment and the later I decided to drop a few word for the comment this article to show up the expression the happiness plus with the excitement which involve about the stranger and weird co-religionist( to be honest, Mat Hum isn’t friendly enough toward me even manytime I try to convince her but with the failure result). Indeed when I was the little child, I used to put myself with the some silly question and all the ridiculous imagination about the life : it is true if have the love on the fist sight, it real or not, why I hardly like this person even I met her in the first time why and why ….Recently, I so lucky to become the discipline of the benevolent Guru,, I gradually realized all the situation and the happening in the life which have been arranged the cycle of cause of effect, the result of karma which would be follow up you all the life and the silly question had been the solved ….. Indeed i strongly believed Mat Hum and Mat Từ had the connection on the previous life and that why both of you develop the good sentiment together ….Finally, thanks a lot of your article and looking forward more and more…
  7. Ngoc says:
    Thật xin lỗi,tôi lại ” nhiều chuyện ” nữa .Không hiểu sao quý vị lại viết và bình luận bằng tiếng Anh,trong khi chúng ta là người Việt ?
    • nguyenthanh says:

      Đạo hữu đọc đề mục “Ngoại ngữ Phật giáo” thì hiểu thôi! Trang mạng được viết bằng tiếng Việt, Anh, Nga tựa như người Việt chúng ta có báo bằng tiếng Anh và Pháp vậy! Đối tượng bạn đọc của Chanhtuduycom không chỉ người Việt vì học trò Mật gia có cả người nước ngoài. Chào thân ái!

    • nguyenthanh says:

      Vui lòng không dùng từ quý vị mà là đạo hữu, pháp hữu!

  8. Ngoc says:
    Vâng,giờ tôi hiểu rồi.Cám ơn đạo sư đã giảng giải.
  9.  Tantra Mahavita says:

    Querido y Amado Guru . La pregunta clave aca es …¿ Que es el Amor ? Amor Incondicional …Alguien tiene la respuesta …Creo que el Amor …ES ……y porque dos personas se encuentran y se aman profundamente mas alla del tiempo y el espacio?…no lo se…Solo puedo responder que al conocer a mi Guru . mi vida , o mejor dicho , mi ego , se puso patas para arriba , pero mi corazon , Estallo , literalmente estallo de Amor  .Conozco el cuento del hilo rojo…Sera eso , tampoco lo se ..Solo estoy segura de una sola cosa…Mi Amor por el es Eterno .Absolutamente puro , genuino, nunca senti algo asi en mi corazon ……………..Asi que …Simplemente Agradezco al Universo …Solo pido que tenga salud y pueda vivir muchos años para beneficio de todos los seres sintientes …Las palabras a veces no pueden transmitir el significado de algo ,que solo se puede experimentar …Que todos los seres esten libres de sufrimiento y sus causas …Profundo Amor y Devocion …OM MANI PADME HUM

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