Nov 21, 2013

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PREDESTINED AFFINITY (Mối duyên tiền định)

Almost all of people have set quality standards for every thing, from small to big things and events in their lives. Supposing, a young boy definitely have experienced a time in his life putting head on the clouds with the imagination of his standard wife: she must own a black long hair, a single-eyelid and her skin is as white as snow. One day, his real girl with no “Photoshop” effects comes with the main color both in hair and skin is brown and she wears a pair of glasses that he cannot realize how many eyelids she really has. But strangely, this does not mean that his life is painted with brown together with her hair color, it is still in pink color. Why?

Have you ever experienced the feeling of love at first sight? I am implying the “Love” here with the extensive meaning with friendship and other relationships; it is the affection towards the one that you have never met before. You cannot hide a smile seeing him/her and have sympathy towards that person for no reason. Have you asked yourself, “Why do I feel so close to him/her”?

Sometimes there came some persons who have a supernatural power to make you feel so uncomfortable to be with them for no reasons. Just by seeing them or hearing their voice makes you to be in a fret easily. Why?

Those are all predestined affinities. In other words, anything happened and anyone we happened to meet in our lives is destined for us.

Based on different philosophies of various religions, you may have your own way to explain the predestined affinity.  In the view of a Buddhist, it is my belief that all conditioned things and events in the universe come into being as a result of the interaction of various causes and conditions. It applies similarly to a predestined meeting among persons in their lives. There are nothing happens for no reason, they do not have an independent, autonomous reality. An unintentional act in this life originates from an intentional act in our previous life, or further previous lives formerly. Getting a deep understanding of this fact gives me a definitely fresh and interesting view into my life’s predestined affinity, especially towards the true family feeling and the precious brotherhood I have found at Song Nguyen Tantra House.

In our Song Nguyen Tantra House, besides teaching us to learn and practice Dharma, our Guru encourages us to let our personal feelings in harmony with the immense feeling of the brothers and the brotherhood in our Tantra House is placed at the first position. We come to understand that by developing a united and close-knit family, together learning and practicing Dharma, overcoming the difficulties we may meet in our lives, we can progress further and better. That’s why I always feel like “more than home” when I am with my Guru and the brothers in Song Nguyen Tantra House.

But there is no rule without an exception: my Guru has a special disciple whose character is so different. She seems to avoid sharing her feelings to any of us. Dependent upon her appearance, she does not look like a girl at all. She has an impressive way of walking, both deliberately and powerfully as though she does not afraid of anything or anyone; inside her keen eyes I saw the strong personality which was consolidated by getting through many hardships. Although she has been practicing Dharma and being my Guru’s disciple more than 2 years earlier than me, I heard that she has never grew closer to anyone. I guess by myself she is kind of having a lot of inner feelings. One of my co-religionists named Mat Vien once told me that my Guru has saved her life for three times. If she had not been predestined to meet my Guru, she would have not been saved through her sickness, as well as her injuries through her fight with others; she even almost could have been blind from a serious disease. She used to be a rough one, act in rude way and talk in rude words. My Guru has once forced her to practice meditation with him, and then she has gradually changed her character. From a violent one, she has changed to be a quiet and tend-to-listening one. Thanks to our benevolent Guru, we have been polished our nature, to have a compassionate and good heart towards the masses.

Back to my strange co-religionist, I realize the way she treat others is so unfair compared to the way she treats Mat Vien, my co-religionist. She even spent all her time around Mat Vien whenever Mat Vien had a stay at Song Nguyen Tantra House.  I will never forget her coldness when we first met, she just looked at me with full of suspicions in her eyes. I even felt scared of looking straight to those eyes. Although from the bottom of my heart, seeing the way she express her affection towards Mat Vien, I think she owns a good heart inside.

The evening when I first came to Song Nguyen Tantra House, while sitting in Tam Thua room I heard a knock on the door, together with a soft voice calling me. I was so shocked to see that strange co-religionist in front of the door. Not even waiting for my invitation, she stepped over the threshold and came in so definitively. I am not kind of getting close to anyone that fast, but I also share the same feeling of affectionate towards her immediately. I asked her if there was any confusion for her visit, maybe she came here for finding Mat Vien who shares the same room with me. She answered by sitting by my side and sharing the peaceful and friendly atmosphere. Gradually, I have grown the habit of waiting for her to drop in every day. I think she was rooted from a respectable family and live an order and disciplined life because she always stopped by at the same time every day. Sometime I cannot help asking, why I did develop a good sentiment towards a strange person for the first time without any defense. I think she should ask the same question; maybe with her character, she would be more wondering than me.

Because of this predestined affinity, I strongly believe that we have been something important towards each other in our previous lives. Much more appreciated, in this life we are both meeting at Song Nguyen Tantra House and being disciples of our benevolent Guru, we are sharing the happiness of living a meaningful life which is heading to helping us and others to live happily forever and ever…

A verse of a famous Vietnamese poem which was composed by our great poet named Nguyen Du just happens to appear in my mind. I take the liberty to use it as an ending of this writing:

“Người đâu gặp gỡ làm chi

Trăm năm biết có duyên gì hay không?”

Temporarily translate: (Please excuse my translating errors, if any)

“It’s a great happiness to have met you

Hundred years ahead will be like this, too?”

P/s: The character who is my predestined affinity in this writing named Mật Hùm, my Guru’s beloved cat, one of his disciples.


Mật Từ.



  1. nguyenthanh says:

    I like my cat, and thank you very much because you wrote about her. Mat Hum is her name, a good student. I hope you and she haves a nice frienship.

  2. Ngoc says:
    Ông/ bà MAT TU không phải là người Việt Nam ?!Có ai làm ơn dịch dùm bài viết này không vậy ?
  3. Ngoc says:
    À mà thôi không làm phiền quý vị.Vì tôi không phải là thành viên của gia đình phật tử của quý vị.Nên không dám đòi hỏi.Con mèo rất đáng yêu.Tôi rất thích mèo.
    • nguyenthanh says:

      [email protected] thân mến!
      Tuy Ngoc cho rằng mình không phải thành viên gia đình Phật tử của Mật gia Song Nguyễn, nhưng chúng tôi luôn xem Ngọc là pháp hữu trân quý! Cảm ơn đã quá mục và phản hồi tích cực. Chúc cát tường, an tịnh!

  4. Ngoc says:
    Oh trời,tác giả khéo ví von quá. Thành thật cám ơn người phiên dịch.Con mèo này,dù thuộc cảnh giới súc sinh,nhưng nó có duyên lành được sống trong gia đình phật tử.Những gì diễn ra hàng ngày trước mặt nó sẽ gieo vào tâm thức nó ,đó sẽ là nhân thành phật quả…
    • Mật Từ says:
      Mật Từ rất cảm ơn và vô cùng hoan hỷ vì đạo hữu Ngọc đã quan tâm đọc bài viết và phản hồi tích cực. Chúc đạo hữu luôn an lạc!
  5. Ngoc says:
    Xin lỗi,tôi comment lộn bài. Tôi comment cho bài được dịch ra tiếng Việt có tiêu đề “Mối duyên tiền định “.Cảm ơn dịch giả.
  6. Matkinh says:
    First of all, I would like to express the joyfulness for the cute article and thanks Mat Hum who make the inspiration for Mat Tu to write the FREDESTINED AFFINITY . The first time when I read the article without comment and the later I decided to drop a few word for the comment this article to show up the expression the happiness plus with the excitement which involve about the stranger and weird co-religionist( to be honest, Mat Hum isn’t friendly enough toward me even manytime I try to convince her but with the failure result). Indeed when I was the little child, I used to put myself with the some silly question and all the ridiculous imagination about the life : it is true if have the love on the fist sight, it real or not, why I hardly like this person even I met her in the first time why and why ….Recently, I so lucky to become the discipline of the benevolent Guru,, I gradually realized all the situation and the happening in the life which have been arranged the cycle of cause of effect, the result of karma which would be follow up you all the life and the silly question had been the solved ….. Indeed i strongly believed Mat Hum and Mat Từ had the connection on the previous life and that why both of you develop the good sentiment together ….Finally, thanks a lot of your article and looking forward more and more…
  7. Ngoc says:
    Thật xin lỗi,tôi lại ” nhiều chuyện ” nữa .Không hiểu sao quý vị lại viết và bình luận bằng tiếng Anh,trong khi chúng ta là người Việt ?
    • nguyenthanh says:

      Đạo hữu đọc đề mục “Ngoại ngữ Phật giáo” thì hiểu thôi! Trang mạng được viết bằng tiếng Việt, Anh, Nga tựa như người Việt chúng ta có báo bằng tiếng Anh và Pháp vậy! Đối tượng bạn đọc của Chanhtuduycom không chỉ người Việt vì học trò Mật gia có cả người nước ngoài. Chào thân ái!

    • nguyenthanh says:

      Vui lòng không dùng từ quý vị mà là đạo hữu, pháp hữu!

  8. Ngoc says:
    Vâng,giờ tôi hiểu rồi.Cám ơn đạo sư đã giảng giải.
  9.  Tantra Mahavita says:

    Querido y Amado Guru . La pregunta clave aca es …¿ Que es el Amor ? Amor Incondicional …Alguien tiene la respuesta …Creo que el Amor …ES ……y porque dos personas se encuentran y se aman profundamente mas alla del tiempo y el espacio?…no lo se…Solo puedo responder que al conocer a mi Guru . mi vida , o mejor dicho , mi ego , se puso patas para arriba , pero mi corazon , Estallo , literalmente estallo de Amor  .Conozco el cuento del hilo rojo…Sera eso , tampoco lo se ..Solo estoy segura de una sola cosa…Mi Amor por el es Eterno .Absolutamente puro , genuino, nunca senti algo asi en mi corazon ……………..Asi que …Simplemente Agradezco al Universo …Solo pido que tenga salud y pueda vivir muchos años para beneficio de todos los seres sintientes …Las palabras a veces no pueden transmitir el significado de algo ,que solo se puede experimentar …Que todos los seres esten libres de sufrimiento y sus causas …Profundo Amor y Devocion …OM MANI PADME HUM

  10. Tantra Upatissa says:
    Dear Guru thanks for sharing this article.

    I too believe that many of us were connected in previous lives may be for different reasons. Hence in this life some of us are predestined to meet again. All master’s have different style of teaching. We have to accept them either they teach us in harsh manner or in a easy going way. Because they know much about us then ourselves due to their higher spiritual level.

    May Guru live long and be protected.

    May all beings be free from suffering and get enlightened..

    • Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con xin phép dịch comment của đạo hữu Tantra Upatissa sang tiếng Việt như sau:

      “Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy đã cho con được đọc bài viết này.

      Con tin rằng nhiều người trong chúng con được kết nối với nhau từ nhiều kiếp trước do nhiều lý do khác nhau. Vì vậy, trong cuộc đời chúng con có những cuộc hạnh ngộ do duyên tiền định. Việc hạnh ngộ vị Thầy cũng do duyên lành từ kiếp trước. Các vị Thầy có cách dạy khác nhau. Khi đã theo một vị Thầy, chúng con nên tuân theo lời Thầy dạy kể cả khi Thầy nộ pháp hay hiền minh. Bởi vì, chính vị Thầy chân chính, có trình độ tâm linh cao sẽ hiểu rõ chúng con và giúp chúng con.

      Con cầu nguyện Thầy thân tâm an tịnh và trụ thế lâu dài.

      Cầu nguyện tất cả chúng sanh đoạn trừ phiền não và đạt được giác ngộ.” 

  11. Tantra Amishuta says:
    Dear Holy Guru,

    Thank you for sharing this article. i have met and not met a few ppl I felt an immediate attraction to as though they were always a part of me and I felt an affection towards them upon first meeting or first speaking with these people. I love to meet new people and talk to people on line and tend to get close with people very easily. I appreciate this article. I hope that you are well for the sake of all sentient beings and i hope your disciples and myself find enlightenment as we follow you on our path in Buddhism. Om mani padme hum

    • Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con xin phép dịch comment của đạo hữu Tantra Amishuta sang tiếng Việt như sau:

      “Kính bạch Thầy tâm linh tôn quý!

      Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy đã cho con được đọc bài viết này. Bản thân con đã từng gặp những người mà con cảm thấy quý mến ngay khi gặp gỡ và ngược lại. Những người  trở thành một phần trong cuộc sống của con và con cảm thấy rất gần gũi khi lần đầu gặp gỡ. Con muốn được gặp gỡ, giao thiệp với nhiều người thông qua internet và đôi khi con cảm thấy họ rất gần gũi. 

      Bài viết này hay và ý nghĩa với con.

      Con cầu nguyện Thầy khỏe mạnh, trụ thế lâu dài vì sự lợi lạc của tất cả chúng sanh.

      Con cầu nguyện chúng con được theo chân Thầy từ đây cho đến khi giác ngộ tội thượng.

      Om Mani Padme Hum.”

  12. Lan Trần says:
    Dear Mat Tu,

    Thank you for sharing us an interesting article about predestined affility. I completely agree with you that anything happened and anyone we happened to meet in our life is destinied for us.

    May you be blessed by the Three Jewels.

    May the Guru and his consort live long for the sake of all sentient beings.

    May all beings attain the happiness of buddha’s nature.

    Om Mani Padme Hum.

  13. Dr.C H Lakshmi narayan says:
    Buddha is my life

    Dhamma is my way

    Sangha is my Spirit

    Respected Guruji, I bow my head at the lotus feet of Guruji.

    I am Tantra Nirvadeva.

    Some people believe that whatever happens in this life is already predestined due to the previous Karmas what we did in our past life. So we are fortunate to come into contact with Guru-Buddha-Dharma-Sangha through Chanhtuduy and is also due to our predestined affinity as decided by our Fate.

    Having come to the Spiritual field of Buddhism, we  reform, perform, and transform our selves by doing Dharma Practices. What should happen in our present life is predestined and is sure to happen , then what is the role of our efforts and Dharma Practices ?. That is grilling in my mind. What  I feel  our efforts and Dharma Practices have a definite positive role in addition to the predestined affinity !

    Om Mani Padme Hum.

    Long live our beloved Guruji for upholding Dharma.

    Dr C H Lakshminarayan.

  14. Tantra Citta (Jeffrey Bernard Forest) says:
    Dear Holy Guru,

    It is with great joy that I read and see photo’s of your beloved cat. It brings back fond memories when I was growing up and our family had cat’s and other numerous pets. Animals have always been regarded in Buddhist thought as sentient beings and they possess Buddha Nature as well and share the same potential for Enlightenment as we humans do. All animals and sentient life are equally precious. If we accept that all beings and animals have Buddha Nature, then the greatest goal in life is to see our true nature and then help others to also realize their true nature, pets included. I presently own a very beautiful dog named Bobby. He is like a child to me. When I perform my prayer’s and mantra’s, Bobby is very much attentive to my actions and he wag’s his tail in appreciation. My prayer’s and chanted mantra’s have planted a seed in the mind of my pet Bobby that grows in his mind to give him good health and a long and better life. Spending time putting good karmic imprints on a person’s mindstream is always a very good idea and establishes a connection between the person, their pet and the Three Jewel’s, meeting the sacred teachings and having an affinity for them in future lives. Animals are very sensitive to our energies and mind states. We should always keep our hearts soft and open to their needs and actions. I offer the light of my loving compassion and wisdom on our esteemed Master, consort and beloved cat and my supreme blessings as well to all my fellow students and disciples at Song Nguyen Tantra House. My sincere regards, Tantra Citta (Jeffrey Bernard Forest). Gate gate paragate parasangate bodhi svaha! 🙂

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