Apr 11, 2017

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ROSES and LOVELOCKS (Hoa hồng và ổ khóa)


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This bridge is called “Lovelock Bridge”

There are many locks hanging around the bridge called “Lovelock Bridge” (see the photo). A woman is sitting  on the bridge. She sells many kinds of locks with various colors and different sizes. The lovers or couples who are in love are advised to buy the lock and write their names  on it and then lock it on the Bridge in order  to have a long lasting love. There are many people who believe in such a funny story. So ridiculous!

In the past, there was a poor painter who loved a singer. Knowing she loved flowers, he sold the house to buy millions of roses. Waking up early, she was surprised with the bright red field filled with roses when she looked out of the window. There was a boy waiting for her with a bouquet of roses. Millions of roses were exchanged with the house of the painter, but he only got the kiss of admiration from the singer in return. In short, she left the painter because of the poverty that could not keep up the warmth of love in the cold night of the fierce livelihood. Today boys and girls love each other coming to “Lovelock Bridge” to hang the lock on it. Is it  the lock that proves their sincerity? Too hard!

 Similarily, there are many couples going to church to pray for their love:

I kneel down and pray before God

Please help me marry the man who I love

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going to a temple to pray for love

…and Buddhists go to temple to beg Buddha and Bodhisattva for blessings. On the evening of April 12, 2016, we dropped by a monumental pagoda on Nguyen Cong Tru Street, where we met a couple who came here to pray. They clasped hands before the statues of holy saint, goddess and guardian . If the temple did not close, they would have asked the monk for fortune telling if their ages could help them be in harmony with each other or their love could be successful. These activities often happen in many other temples.

I appreciate their sincerity because every one who loves always wants to be loved. However, the way they pray show that they want to rely on someone, something for ever lasting love. I really feel sorry for such ignorance. Locks, bridges ….are all inanimate objects, how can they help humans for ever-lasting love? Statues of Buddha, holy monks, Uranus, dharma protectors are also inanimate objects, how can they help people? I recalled there was a singer telling me that she and her boyfriend often went to temple for praying; but they ended up breaking up, the current husband whom she met was a non-believer. It was better for the painter who sold the house to buy millions of roses for his beloved one,  also to keep the impression of “the first beginning moment so that emotion prints in her mind forever”

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Buying locks on the “Lovelock Bridge”

Buying locks on the “Lovelock Bridge”, going to temple, going to church for prayers is “sincere” but “useless”, this is called “idealism” in philosophical term and it is called “wrong view” in Buddhism. Studies on the efficacy of gender relations and the lasting love show that the success in love does not rely on which year they were born like the year of the cat or the year of the dragon, but rely on their knowledge on love. There is a famous quotation as follows:

“Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”

This sentence shows that true love is built  neither with the happiness of Five Desires (including Desires of wealth, power, and money; Desire of sex or beauty; Desire of fame, influence and praises; Desire of food and drink or eating; Desire of sleep and rest) nor the bliss of consciousness (forms, sounds, scents, tastes, textures). They should have the same goal of life.

Psycho-social psychologists sum up the experience of spousal relationships with the following three harmonies:

1.  The psychological harmony with comfortable communication.

2.  The spiritual harmony with the same moral values (like “Birds of a feather flock together” or “Every Jack has his Jill”)

3.  The physical compatibility.

In Buddhism, in a briefing on the marriage, the Dalai Lama 14 once said: To be happy, the couple must meet the following conditions:

1.  Mutual admiration (bilateral, not unilateral)

2.  Respect each other

3.  Sympathy and mutual understanding

Lotus Flower Estrade in Song Nguyen Tantra House

Although many people being in love belong to the intellectual class, they have the spiritual ignorance. There is a story in which a doctor obeys to a fortune teller who does not even have degree of elementary school; the professor must bow to a psychic. The government officers are commanded by the horoscope mostly telling a lie. That is called superstition, wrong view. Why are these mental dregs (wrong viewpoints, superstitions) still in place? Due to greed, fear, desire!  They are in the fear of losing their lover, so they do what they think and agree to do whatever others tell them in order to keep the love lasts forever. But can they have what they need after such superstition and wrong view? The answer is never.


Love, marriage is the karma. The only way to change the bad karma into  the good karma is to cultivate, practice dharma. You can be the follower of any Buddhist sects. But if you are a Buddhist, you still believe in the sacred statues, which is wrong view. The statue is just a statue, the Buddha statue is only crude element. Its effect is to remind Buddhists of “considering the realization of perfect understanding as their only career” in order to have actions of body, speech and mind according to the right Path for the ultimate liberation, What a few ordinary locks! With a 35,000 dong lock, a 10,000 dong incense, if all loves can become lasting, there would not be any divorce, separation, family violence in the world. But in fact, as per the statistics  the cases of divorce, separation, family violence etc are increasing.

In conclusion, it is good to cherish each other’s sincerity by showing their feeling and heartfelt care. However, be careful with the hypocrite who takes advantage of the way “sincerely worship” to deceive the victim for earning money like the technique of “Defense breaking punch” in martial arts. From this view, it is very important to provide lay Buddhists with right view.

May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature.

Om Mani Padme Hum.

Phuoc Thanh village, April 13, 2016

Thinley Nguyen Thanh

Translated by Mat Dieu Hang

Original Vietnamese version: HOA HỒNG VÀ Ổ KHÓA (Bài mở)

Korean version: 장미꽃과 사랑의 자물쇠 (HOA HỒNG VÀ Ổ KHÓA)


  1. Vivek S says:

    Dear respected holy Guru,
    I would like to express my gratitude to you for your interesting writing.
    I know that love is not something that love is not something you can snatch from someone or get by praying to some inanimate objects.These are all utter absurdity.If our karma is good things follow.By practicing dharma we can change our karma
    May the Guru live long for the sake of all beings.
    May the Guru’s teachings flourish all over the world for the benefit of all beings.
    Om Mani Padme Hum.

  2. Kính bạch Thầy!
    Con xin phép Thầy cho con dịch những dòng comment của bạn đọc Vivek S sang tiếng Việt. Nếu con dịch có điều gì sai với quỹ đạo chánh pháp, con kính mong Thầy từ bi khai thị. Con cảm ơn Thầy!
    Sau đây là nội dung cảm niệm của bạn đọc Vivek S:

    “Kính thưa vị Thầy tâm linh tôn quý,
    Con xin bày tỏ lòng biết ơn đến Thầy vì Thầy đã viết một bài pháp hay và lợi lạc. Qua đó, con hiểu rằng tình yêu bền vững không phải nương tựa vào điều gì đó, ai đó hoặc có được bằng sự cầu nguyện với những vật vô tri vô giác . Điều này là vô lý. Nếu nghiệp tốt thì con người có tình yêu đẹp. Chỉ bằng cách thực hành pháp, chúng con mới có thể chuyển nghiệp, để có hạnh phúc lứa đôi.
    Con cầu nguyện Thầy Cô trụ thế lâu dài vì sự lợi lạc của chúng sanh.
    Con cầu nguyện giáo pháp của Thầy lan tỏa khắp muôn nơi vì lợi lạc của hữu tình.
    Om Mani Padme Hum.”

    • Tuelo piet moeng says:

      Dear guru.im in from north west ottosdal.thank you so much for sharing this nice article.may all being be always happy and peaceful

      • Mật Diệu Hằng says:

        Kính bạch Thầy!

        Con xin phép dịch comment của bạn đọc Tuelo piet Moeng sang tiếng Việt như sau:

        Kính bạch Thầy!

        Con ở  Tây Bắc thị trấn Ottosdal.

        Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy đã cho con được đọc bài viết lợi lạc này.

        Cầu nguyện tất cả chúng sanh được hạnh phúc và bình an.

  3. Dear Vivek S,
    I am really delighted with your reading and comment on chanhtuduy.com. Especially, you can learn precious things from the Guru’s discourse. “Rose and Lock” is one of the interesting articles relating to “dharma intergrated into life”, which helps us and all beings apply the Lord Buddha’s teachings into daily life.
    I agree with you that locks, bridges, statues of Buddhas, dharma protectors or some inanimate objects can not help us get the happiness. Only by practicing dharma, we can get the temporary happiness and ultimate bliss because of changing bad karmas into good karmas.
    Luckily, The Guru Thinley Nguyen Thanh provides us with many efficient methods to accumulate merit and wisdom (including reading and writing comment on chanhtuduy.com), which enables our legitimate wish to quickly come true due to the cultivation.
    I hope you read more posts and share with us about your rejoice in what you learn from the Guru’s teachings.
    May your legitimate wishes come true.
    May the Guru live long for the sake of all sentient beings.
    May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature.
    Om Mani Padme Hum.

  4. Mật Huệ Pháp says:

    To holy Guru
     Thank you for giving us a meaningful lesson on couple love and family happiness. The Buddha taught that every family members have ever had relations with one another somehow, some ways in previous lives. It is 1000 kalpas to be husband and wife, 500 kalpas to be parents and children and 100 kalpas to be brother and sister. But facts and figures of family life in this modern society indicate that not all relations are good and stable, meaning relations formed in past lives are not all good. HH. Dalai Lama 14th has taught that a long lasting love should be based on :
    1. Mutual admiration
    2. Mutual respect
    3. Mutual kindness
    But it seems not easy for them to learn from this teaching without taking refuge in the Three Jewels. That’s why you taught us that love and marriage are the result of karma which is only changed by practice Dharma. Once the couple has the same goal, same destination (ultimate end), they are willing to overlook daily discontentments between each other. The practice of Dharma will help purify their mind, body and speech that add to the family happiness.
     Thanks Mat Dieu Hang for translating this sermon. Please keep up your hard work so as to benefit beings all over the world with precious sermons of our holy Guru.
    May Guru live long for the sake of all sentient beings
    May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature
    Om Ah Hum

  5. Dear my vajra brother Mat Dieu Hang,

    I deeply rejoice your good deed of translating our Guru’s discourse into English.  May all sentient beings soon approach this beneficial article. May you have a happy life and make progress on the path to enlightenment

    May the Guru and his consort live long for sake of all sentient beings.
    May all sentient beings achieve the happiness of the Buddha’s nature
    Om Mani Padme Hum!

  6. Mật Thái Hòa says:

    Kính Bạch Thầy.
    Con hoan hỷ tán thán thiện hạnh của Đạo huynh Mật Diệu Hằng, đã chuyển ngữ bài viết của Thầy sang tiếng Anh nhằm giúp cho chúng sanh có duyên lành được biết đến và được tu tập giáo pháp giải thoát của Đức Phật.
    Cầu mong cho tất cả chúng sanh uống được tinh tuý cam lồ.
    Con cầu nguyện cho sức khỏe và sự trường thọ của Thầy Cô vì hạnh phúc của chúng sanh.
    Om Mani Padmê hum.

  7. Mật Diệu Linh says:

    Kính bạch Thầy.
    Con hoan hỷ tán thán thiện hạnh dịch bài viết của vị Thầy sang tiếng Anh của Đạo huynh Mật Diệu Hằng.
    Con cũng hoan hỷ khi thấy comment của bạn đọc nước ngoài, và đã được Đạo huynh Mật Diệu Hằng dịch lại ạ, con hoan hỷ khi thấy bạn đọc nước ngoài bày tỏ cảm xúc về sự sùng kính Đạo sư, chân quý giáo pháp.
    Con cầu nguyện cho tất cả những ai sử dụng ngôn ngữ tiếng Anh được tiếp cận với nguồn ánh sáng chánh Pháp Phật đà qua những bài giảng, bài viết trên chanhtuduy. com, thông qua kênh vận chuyển của vị Thầy.
    Cầu nguyện cho tất cả uống được tinh tuý cam lồ.
    Om Mani Padme Hum!

  8. Mật Tấn Khải says:

    Mô Phật!
    Pháp đệ hoan hỷ tán thán thiện hạnh của Đạo huynh Mật Diệu Hằng đã chuyển ngữ bài viết của Thầy sang tiếng Anh.
    Cầu nguyện các bạn đọc sử dụng ngôn ngữ tiếng Anh trên thế giới, có duyên lành tiếp cận được với nguồn ánh sáng chánh Pháp. thông qua căn phòng Duy Ma Cật chanhtuduy.com của vị Thầy.
    Con cầu nguyện cho sức khỏe và sự trụ thế lâu dài của Thầy, Cô vì lợi lạc chúng sanh.
    Cầu nguyện cho tất cả chúng sanh thẫm đẫm hồng ân Tam Bảo.
    Om mani padme hum!

  9. Mô Phật
    Mật thúy rất hoan hỉ với thiện hạnh dịch bài viết của vị Thầy sang tiếng anh của Đạo huynh Mật Diệu Hằng cầu nguyện cho huynh luôn tin tấn thực hành pháp để được tha lực hô tri cầu mong tất cả chúng sanh luôn có duyên lành biết đến chánh pháp OM ah hùm

  10. Jeffrey Bernard Forest says:

    Om Mani Padme Hum ❤️ Everyone yearns to experience Love. When we have Wisdom in Love, we frolic in the highest of natural joy! Practicing dharma turns our mind outward, away from self-obsession and we begin to Love without attachment. This is very important, as we learn to stabilize our minds and contemplate the happiness of others. Comfortable communication, spiritual harmony with the same moral values and the physical compatibility are also keys to a harmonious relationship with the opposite sex. True Love is the natural energy of our balanced mind. An inexhaustible resource that leads to a happy marriage. Add mutual admiration, respect for each other and sympathy and mutual understanding to the mix and you cannot help but experience Pure bliss! There is a song that goes something like this : “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn, is just to Love, and be Loved in return”. Let all sentient beings begin that Love, today! Om Mani Padme Hum ❤️❤️

  11. Akshay kumar says:

    Dear Guru
    I have read this article. It is a very interesting one. Most of the people especially young generation kids should understand this. Thank you so much.
    May the Guru live long for the sake of all beings.
    May all beings achieve the happiness of Buddha’s nature.
    Om Mani Padme Hum.

    • Mật Diệu Hằng says:

      Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con xin phép dịch comment của đạo hữu Akshay Kumar sang tiếng Việt, như sau:

      “Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con đã đọc bài này rồi ạ, Đây là một bài viết rất hay. Theo con thì nhiều người, đặc biệt là thế hệ trẻ nên đọc và hiểu những điều Thầy viết trong bài.

      Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy.

      Con cầu nguyện Thầy trụ thế lâu dài vì sự lợi lạc của chúng sanh.

      Càu nguyện tất cả chúng sanh thành tựu hạnh phúc của Phật tánh.

      Om Mani Padme Hum.”

  12. Tantra Mahajan says:

    Dear Guru,
    I have read this article. I am thankful for your writing. I remember the teachinh of the Dalai Lama 14 it goes that: “to be happy, the couple must meet the following conditions:
    1. Mutual admiration (bilateral, not unilateral)
    2. Respect each other
    3. Sympathy and mutual understanding”
    May Guru and your consort live long for the sake of all beings.
    May all beings achieve the happiness of Buddhahood.
    Om Mani Padme Hum.

  13.  Tantra Mahavita says:

    QUERIDO GURU : Expreso mi gratitud por este interesante articulo. ” El Amor no consiste en mirarse el uno al otro, sino en mirar el exterior juntos en la misma direccion ” . Esta frase define algo tan simple y tan maravilloso como es el Amor . Todo el mundo anhela experimentar el Amor .En la practica del Dharma aprendemos a estabilizar nuestras mentes y a contemplar la felicidad de los demas. El Amor Verdadero es la energia natural de nuestra mente equilibrada . Si a eso le añadimos , respeto mutuo ,simpatia , y comprension mutua estamos ante la cosa mas grande que usted aprendera nunca que es …Amar y Ser Amado a cambio …Que todos los seres sintientes comiencen con ese Amor …Hoy ….Que nuestro Amado Guru tenga salud y pueda vivir muchos años para beneficio de todos los seres sintientes . Que todos los seres encuentren la felicidad y sus causas …OM MANI PADME HUM

  14. Navin Kumar says:

    Dear Guru

    Thanks …

  15. Samuel Johnson says:

    Dear Guru, I am from Germany. I have read this article. Thank you for sharing this article. I am new in Buddhism. Please guide me.

  16. Samuel Johnson says:

    .Thank you Guru for sharing this article. i love the part which talked about love not only been gazing on each others eyes but also have same goals and destination , because if two people does not have same goals in life , not even love can keep them together . Thanks again for this piece .

    I am new in Buddhism. Please guide me Guru .

    • Kính bạch Thầy! 

      Con xin phép được dịch comment của bạn đọc Samuel Johnson sang tiếng Việt như sau:

      “Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy đã cho con được đọc bài viết này. Con hiểu rằng yêu nhau không phải nhìn nhau mà là cùng nhau nhìn về một hướng. Bởi vì nếu hai người không có chung mục đích trong cuộc sống thì tình yêu đó khó giữ hai người ở lại bên nhau mãi mãi. Một lần nữa,  con cảm tạ ơn Thầy vì đã viết bài. 

      Con là người mới học Phật giáo,  con xin Thầy chỉ dẫn cho con ạ. “

  17. C H Lakshminarayan says:

    Respected Guruji, I bow my head at your lotus feet.

    The background story behind” Lovelock bridge ” and  “Tajmahal”  of India , one of the Wonders of the world is more or less  appears similar.!

    If we trace the intention  of these two to the root cause we come to know it is due to the ” attachment ” or ” clinging “to the love of a person or an object which goes against the principals of Buddhism.!

    In the process of love, there are two things. One is ‘ lover ‘ and the other is ” loved ” ( person or object ), both are  subject to ” CHANGE ” and ” IMPERMANENCE ” as the time advances !.  So, both the viewer and viewed object can not stay permanent in the process of love for ever as both are changing from moment to moment progressing to the ultimate ” EMPTINESS ” !

    Hence, it is a wrong view and nothing but superstition to observe such things like doing ‘ Lovelocking ‘ or constructing  magnificent monument like ” Tajmahal ” !

    Finally, a lesson we have to learn in this context is to generalize or decentralise our love to one and all instead of centralising or concentrating love over a particular object or person so that it becomes ” UNIVERSAL LOVE ” and uphold  ” non-attachment” or ” non -clinging ” to anything according to the principals and policies of Buddhism.

    Om Mani Padme Hum.

    Dr C H Lakshminarayan.

    (Nirvadeva )


  18. Phillip says:

    I always go away with knowledge

    Thank you

  19. Karabo khumalo says:

    wow I love this gratitude for writing this

    With this my inner mind is cool

    • Nguyên Thành says:

      Welcome to chanhtuduy.com. 

      I hope to read more of your comments. 

    • Kính bạch Thầy!

      Con xin phép được dịch comment của bạn đọc Karabo Khumalo sang tiếng Việt như sau:

      Con hoan hỷ được đọc bài viết của Thầy. Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy đã viết bài viết này.

      Bài viết của Thầy giúp tâm con được bình an.

  20. Karabo khumalo says:
    • Wow I love this gratitude for writing this
    • Its cool with me okay.
    • Thank you
  21. Kevin Doig says:

    Dear Guru,

    I am visiting from Canada and visited the Song Nguyen Tantra House today. It was a peaceful and eye opening experience. Many thanks for your wise words and hospitality.

    The Dalai Lama 14 once said, in order for a couple to be happy they must have..

    1. Mutual admiration of each other

    2. Respect each other

    3. Sympathy and mutual understanding

    I look forward to learning more from Guru.

    May Guru live long for the sake of all beings.

    Om Mani Padme Hom

    • Nguyên Thành
      Nguyên Thành says:


    • Kính bạch Thầy! 

      Con xin phép được dịch comment của bạn đọc Kevin Doig sang tiếng Việt như sau. 

      Kính bạch Thầy! 

      Con từ Canada đến. Hôm nay,  con được đến Tịnh trú Mật gia Song Nguyễn. Con cảm thấy bình an và chuyến đi này cho con nhiều trải nghiệm,  được mở rộng tầm mắt. 

      Con chân thành cảm tạ ơn Thầy vì những lời dạy trí tuệ của Thầy cũng như sự quảng độ Thầy đã ban cho con. 

      Đọc bài viết này,  con hiểu đức Đạt Lai Lạt ma 14 đã dạy: Để được hạnh phúc lứa đôi cần phải có đủ những điều kiện sau đây:

      1. Ngưỡng mộ lẫn nhau (song phương, không phải đơn phương)

      2. Tôn trọng lẫn nhau

      3. Thông cảm và hiểu biết lẫn nhau. 

      Con chờ mong được học thêm từ Thầy ạ. 

      Con cầu nguyện Thầy trụ thế lâu dài vì sự lợi lạc của tất cả chúng sanh. 

      Om Mani Padme Hum. 


  22. Kevin Doig says:

    Dear Guru,

    I am visiting from Canada and visited the Song Nguyen Tanta House today. It was a peaceful experience. Thank you for your wise words and hospitality.

    The Dalai Lama 14 once said that for a couple to be happy they must have…

    1 – Mutual admiration (for one another)

    2 – Respect for one another

    3 – Sympathy and mutual understanding

    May Guru live long for the sake of all sentient beings.

    Om Mani Padme Hom

  23. Nguyên Thanh says:

    Welcom to chanhtuduy.com! I was happy with your visiting!

  24. John Mruk says:

    Thank you for your insightfulness Guru. So many married couples look for help in the wrong places or couples marry for the wrong reasons. The three points made by his Holiness, The Dali Lama, are so very true and are necessary in any relationship.

  25. Mật Diệu Hằng says:

    Kính bạch Thầy!

    Con xin phép được dịch comment của bạn đọc John Mruk sang tiếng Việt như sau:

    Kính bạch Thầy!

    Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy đã khai thị. Hiện tại có quá nhiều cặp vợ chồng cần sự giúp đỡ khi hôn nhân của họ gặp trục trặc và họ nghĩ rằng vì họ lấy nhau sai thời điểm hoặc nhiều đôi cưới nhau vì những lý do sai. Ba tiêu chí mà đức Đạt Lai Lạt ma 14 nêu ra thật sự cần thiết và đúng đắn, áp dụng cho bất kỳ mối quan hệ tình cảm nào.


  26. Simon Michael says:

    Dear holy Guru,

    I am so greatful for this wonderful article you have given to us. In fact you made me to understand that for marriage to survive the two parties have to love each other equally so there for may guru help me with spiritual direction to make good choice of a woman that we will  love each other equally.

    May Guru live long for the seek of sentient being

  27. Mark Alley says:

    Thank you for this excellent and informative teaching.

  28. Tantra Mishataru says:

    Dear Holy Guru, I am so thankful for this article. Truly believing that sacred statues will make the relationship between couple last long is wrong view and the right way to break this bad karmas in future that will affect relationship is to cultivated dharma in our lives daily. Thank you for this lessons Dear Guru. This applies to my background wrong view who believe also that sacred objects or going to a witch will make a relationship last long.  This is one of the main reason why I feel to disconnect or sever ties completely with my background cause of my difference with them. They try even so hard to blind me from truth with going to seek help from a witch and shaman. Anyways I am so thankful again for this wonderful lesson.

    May all sentient being achieve the state of enlightenment.

    Om Mani Padme Hum



  29. Tenzin drukda says:

    Ummm sorry to say but i don’t  believe  in such things,as being a Buddhist we believe that everything based on karma which we called (lay)  through that  we meet the people or your life partner or love of our life,sorry to mention religion  inbetween but m trying to explain buddhist believes upons.do good to others and you’ll  get it back unexpectedly,

  30. Tenzin drulda says:

    With due reverence  to the guru i agree with whatever witten there in the page,as all knows that  love comes from one own realization and through sencerity for each other,respect,mutual understanding,admiration  for each other,praying for long lasting love is a idolatry  worship,and i feel its a wrong view,success on love doesn’t  rely on something you can get through wishing its all depend on action taking between the couple.if I’m  wrong please correct me dear guru,namo amitabha

  31. This is first time I have the opportunity to see the teachings of Buddhism. I am very surprised to see how practical and mind opening the views are. Many people see religion and beliefs as their saviors but don’t spend time on understanding what religions actually teach which are practical ways of living  an easy life away from depressions. Thank you and thank you Thuong for recommendation.

  32. Jase says:

    Dear Guru,

    I am thankful of the message that you speak of that love is not material, but rather a working of two souls towards common goals. I have successfully enjoyed my wife’s company for 12 years, and I have slowly learned this to be the truth. That working with her towards the same thing, is better than chasing after just my own things, because sometimes our things are the same things.

    May peace be with you, Guru.”


  33. Tantra Maruta says:

    Dear holy Guru

    Valentine’s Day has been one among the most anticipated celebrated day worldwide. And indeed, one among the most expensive date happened for couples or people who are in young relationships, I think. They’ve been fond of having it done with a lot of props thinking that their props measures how truly or deeply are to their love. On my own opinion, it is so vague, so odd, if you think it that way. How about those who are less certain who can’t afford to buy expensive gifts, expensive flowers? Aren’t they can be capable to feel a deep love too?
    As that day goes, February 14, I see people moving around, specially young ones, carrying bouquet of flowers with a wide smile so proud of theirselves walking on the streets. I pity them actually for their ignorance about the real definition of love, of loyalty, of realness about life. Because sincerity is not just a one day show event, it is a lifetime commitment.

    Such a wonderful article to read that reminds us of how to think about love. Thank you for sharing it.

    May we all be in love with realness and truth that prevents us to fall in falseness. May all beings be loved in a way that they will know the whole purpose of life.

    Tantra Maruta, from the Philippines
    Om Mani Padme Hum


  34. Rachel Thomson says:

    Dear Guru, I much appreciated yr recent article, it was very emotional, and a beautiful day view on romance.

  35. Felix says:

    Thank you dear Guru for stressing on these superstitious believes and acts that is always being exhibited by us, thereby making us understand how ineffective they are.

    We look forward to learning more from you Sir.


  36. Mật Diệu Hằng says:

    Kính bạch Thầy!

    Con xin phép được dịch comment của bạn đọc Ali sang tiếng Việt như sau:

    Đây là lần đầu tiên con có cơ hội được đọc những lời dạy trong đạo Phật. Con rất ngạc nhiên khi hiểu được tính thực tế cũng như cách nhìn nhận phóng khoáng của đạo Phật. Nhiều người xem tôn giáo và niềm tin như vị cứu tinh nhưng họ lại không dành thời gian để học và hiểu xem những điều được dạy trong đó thực sự rất thực tế với cuộc sống và giúp cho con người có cuộc sống thong dong, thoát khỏi trẩm cảm.

    Con cảm tạ ơn Thầy!

    Cảm ơn bạn Thuong đã chia sẻ bài viết này.


  37. Tantra Najuma says:

    Dearest Guru
    I thoroughly enjoyed you teaching on love for Valentine’s Day. Relying on superstition has never helped anything that I am aware of. The reminder that love like any emotion is an attachment and we should be careful.
    Om Mani Padme hum.


  38. Tantra Pramitdhita (Josh Hacker) says:

    Holy Guru, I bow before your feet! Thank you for taking us as your disciples and teaching us the correct method of following the Dharma. After reading this discourse I understand that superstitions are wrong view and the only way to achieve temporary happiness is by living the Dharma. For a couple to be happy the must meet the following conditions as stated by H.H. 14th Dalai Lama

    1. Mutual admiration

    2. Respect eachother

    3. Sympathy and mutual understanding

    Mat Dieu Hang, I rejoice in your translation of Guru’s discourse! Thank you so much for your great deed to all sentient beings. May all your legitimate wishes come true!

    Om Mani Padme Hum

    May Guru and his consort live a long life for the sake of all sentient beings

    May all sentient beings find freedom from suffering

    May the tragic epidemic caused by the Corona Virus soon end

  39. Saliu Abdulmumin says:

    Dear guru

    I am very much happy to read this article,I wish everyone will be opportune to learn and understand the reason why we all live.they will allow love to lead in all ways.

    Thank you once again for this inspirational article.

    May guru live long and have good health for the sake of beings.

    May beings be free from suffering and have enlightenment.

  40. Devi Trinadh says:

    To the Holy Guru.

    It’s true about the painter and singer. Now a days all are like. The best thing is love our family and mutual understanding between the couples

  41. Brian says:

    Dear Holy Guru, thank you for this article. I am great full for you sharing your wisdom. I have grown very fond of your teachings. I know you’re a very busy person but I ask of your blessing for my daughter at this time. She is in the hospital getting ready to give birth to my first grandchild. May you be blessed and live a long life. Much love for you.

  42. Brian says:

    Thank you Guru! It means a lot to me and my family!!

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